• I'll be on ShareMySims@lemmy.dbzer0.com@sh.itjust.works
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    16 days ago

    Your brother is on a (specifically designed and heavily funded) pipeline to being a total piece of shit (not just with misogyny, but racism, and probably queerphobia and ableism too), do what you can to get him off it. A quick search brings up what looks to be some good info to start you off:

    Manosphere

    Misogynistic influencers are trending right now. Defusing their message is a complex task

    De-radicalising incels out of the ‘manosphere’ through Reddit

    Making a Radical Misogynist: How Online Social Engagement with the Manosphere Influences Traits of Radicalization

    Swallowing and spitting out the red pill: young men, vulnerability, and radicalization pathways in the manosphere

    Exiting the Manosphere

    There are also many youtube videos on the subject, though I haven’t watched any recently, so I won’t link, but look up something along the lines of “manosphere right wing pipeline” and you should see some results.

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    16 days ago

    If you want advice on how to handle this: ask questions. Ask them calmly and without any judgment. Be genuinely curious.

    “What makes him a ‘beta male?’”

    “What characteristics do you admire most in ‘alpha males?’”

    “What characteristics do you think you have?”

    “Where’d you learn about all this?”

    Don’t ask them in rapid fire, pepper a question in here and there over time.

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      16 days ago

      Alternatively refer to him only as “Cuck” until he stops acting like a fuckwit.

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          16 days ago

          What are they gonna do about it? Get someone to defend their kinks better than they can while they jerk off in the corner?

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            16 days ago

            Dunno, but your fixation on defending the use of a kink as an insult soulds pretty assholeish. You do you.

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              16 days ago

              Ok, in fairness the second comment was a dumb joke. But I fight stupid bigots with stupid bigotry. Its more entertaining for me than trying logic and reason because as we have seen time and time again from Trumpists it plain doesnt fucking work. Fuck them, if I have to be mad listening to their dribble, Im gonna make them madder.

              Someone constantly spouting off about being an Alpha will hate a dismissive “shut up cuck” and being walked off on so much more than actually respecting their stance by arguing it with logic.

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    16 days ago

    “Alpha male” basically translates to toxic masculinity, and “beta male” basically translates to anyone who respects other people in any way. It’s the callsign of pieces of shit like Andrew Tate, who is a human trafficker and serial sexual abuser currently in prison awaiting trial in… I think it was Croatia?

    He doesn’t know what it means to be cool, so he’s hoping that just declaring that he’s cool will be good enough to make him popular.

    The problem is that the kids who try this strategy almost universally cannot pick up on social cues, otherwise they would understand that it will always lead to the opposite result. People who seriously say out loud that they’re alpha males are pretty much exclusively losers or scumbags.

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    16 days ago

    Tell him calling himself an alpha is just what a beta would do. Real alphas don’t say shit about themselves, they have people who do that for them. Watch him implode.

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      13 days ago

      Also doesn’t apply to wolves, the original researcher just mistook a parent protecting her kids for an aggressive male

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    16 days ago

    It’s called the manosphere, and it’s a bunch of bad podcasters and YouTubers giving shitty advice on how to be a man to insecure kids. It’s annoying because it’s so stupid on its face and yet it’s working.

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      Can you blame them, though? I can’t think of a single person speaking for young men who is also widely accepted by the liberal left - or however you want to define the “good guys.” Even here on Lemmy, anyone slightly deviating from the narrative is met with extreme hostility. It’s not that young men are naturally drawn to figures like Andrew Tate - they’re being pushed there.

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        I just can’t take anyone seriously who refers to liberalism as “the liberal left.” Liberals absolutely have not treated young men well, but for fuck sakes man read a fucking book or something just once in your life.

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          I literally don’t know how to describe the userbase of a platform like Lemmy any other way but maybe you can suggest me a better term then. I’m not talking about liberalism. I’m talking about a group of people.

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            Liberalism, which is a centre right ideology if we’re using that idiotic left right scale, is fundamentally different from leftism and conflating the two is disingenuous at best and willfully ignorant at worst.

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              15 days ago

              What’s wrong about calling it liberal left then when literally 100% of those people are left wing leaning? Isn’t that like saying “the conservative right”?

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        16 days ago

        What narrative would that be? That all people, regardless of gender, ethnicity etc. deserve equal rights?

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    16 days ago

    Toxic people that would never have had a platform for their bullshit have suddenly gained that ability in just 20 years time because of the internet. People that would normally receive a lot of fists in their face, do not anymore. The digital world is such a new thing that it’s completely unnatural for us to live with and it affects our perspectives and social lives. It simply goes way too fast for evolution to catch up to.

    Without good care, it creates people that are completely delusional and deranged. Filter bubbles also add up to the problem. One that consumes content will be served more similar content, creating and feeding a very limited perspective. Because everything in the digital world is so new, there have been almost no studies in how it affects us and how it should be remedied.

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    15 days ago

    How old is your brother? If he is an early teenager, it is possible that he picked these concepts up from somewhere and will very likely grow out of that thinking all by himself.

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      13 days ago

      Twenty Two. He just started this shit. Me and my mom don’t know to be offened worried or what.