I am a social guy, talking to people comes quite natural to me. Therefore I make friends easily. I have had a ton of crushes and was also in love for a couple of times. However I have never had any relationship to speak of (I’m 25, btw), and I feel like I’m missing out on something.

When it comes to relationships I honestly don’t know how people do it. I don’t know what makes someone “like” someone else, safe for their appearance. Or how someone “starts” to see another as a romantic partner rather than platonic. I feel like I only know how to serve friendship. So how do people develop feelings for someone?

  • throwawaysalami@lemm.eeOP
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    2 days ago

    but then what is your actual challenge here?

    I don’t know, that’s a good question. How to convey that to the other person, I guess?

    • jbrains@sh.itjust.works
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      2 days ago

      It’s not clear to me yet what you want: not too serious, but more than friends, so… sex? Not judging, just trying to understand. And maybe you don’t know yet.

      • throwawaysalami@lemm.eeOP
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        1 day ago

        I mean, I’ll take what I can get (short term, long term). As I said I have never had any sort of relationship to speak of so I wouldn’t really know. But casual sex would be best for me as things are now.

        • jbrains@sh.itjust.works
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          1 day ago

          I suppose I don’t understand yet what you expect from a “relationship” that’s different from a friendship, so it’s hard to offer any advice.

          If you want to have sex with someone, it helps to ask. I understand that asking has risks, so you probably want to have some sense that the other person is not going to hit you before you ask. 😉 I don’t know how to magically get them to ask you, except for maybe being generally sexually irresistible. That’s outside my expertise.

          As you learn what you want, it will become easier to look for it and ask for it. Maybe it would help you to think more about what you want for now.