I’ve always wondered this. Some people have trouble with dating because they try to go for people out of their league who don’t like them back. But society also tells us that we can’t choose who we are attracted to. Like for example, no one makes a “choice” to be gay.

So what happens when you’re only attracted to those out of their league that will never ever like them back?

Do the people with this issue still date? But when they date, they lie to their partner that they are into them? I have been on a couple of dates with someone I wasn’t into before. It make me incredibly guilty and dishonest that I did not like them back.

Curious as to the experience/thoughts of others.

Apologies if this is the wrong community. I will remove on request. Thanks.

  • dingus@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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    17 days ago

    I’m good on all these fronts! Except for “social status” because I’m not really sure what that means. I’m generally well-liked though. But yeah I just can’t change who I’m attracted to. Some of us are just not as good looking as others even if we are fit and are financially secure lol. The problem is the inability to be attracted to “regular looking” people. It’s like if you were only attracted to ultra attracted celeb appearing people.

    • phughes@lemmy.caEnglish
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      17 days ago

      The problem is the inability to be attracted to “regular looking” people.

      The problem is that you’re shallow. That’s a personality problem. Improve your personality until you see the people around you as more than objects.