• Anvil Lavigne@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    9 months ago

    i used to think it was okay for me to say as i’m disabled. what i noticed, though, is that my doing so 1) communicated to my abled peers that it’s okay for them to say as well & 2) made me appear as a pick-me; i was perceived as “one of the good ones.”

    the r-slur has been causing a very visceral reaction in me for years & i will continue to report each & every instance of it.

    • Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      That’s the problem I have when people of that slur use it. And worse, they act like it’s not a big deal. There’s offensive words I can use because of my skin tone that would absolutely get any non-colored person choked out.

      But you nailed it. If I brush it off like it doesnt offend/isn’t a disgusting word, then I am giving permission to others that it’s okay to say.

    • die444die@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      I have a question about for you about this if you don’t mind. In certain mechanical situations the word is used to describe a delay added (for example in a car engine you may use this word to describe a certain timing adjustment).

      Does the word in a context like that still cause that visceral reaction or does the context make it different - is it only when used to describe people that it hits that way?

      I’m only asking this because it popped into my head the other day when I was reading my service book on my engine and ran across it.

      It’s kinda similar to how people commonly used a shortened form of ‘transmission’ in the automotive industry but it became a slur for trans people - I feel like I haven’t heard that one in a while so I’m guessing it’s fallen out of use, but I was just always curious if the taint of people bullying with that word crossed over into other contexts.