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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • It takes a village, but more than that. In my experience (mostly speaking of my friends) rather well-adjusted people had significant influence from multiple adults living in their home: grandparents, aunts and uncles, roommates, family friends. They also tended to be involved with community things like sports and arts where they’d get close mentorship from other adults not in the home.

    Though, everyone I’ve known who had a professional caretaker (nanny, etc.) is a hot mess. So it’s more about having multiple people who care for you properly, not just more caretakers = better

    I know a fair few kids of single parents who also kick ass, but most of them have some trauma too.

    US culture is pushing that living with family is a sign of laziness/poverty and the opposite of success, when that couldn’t be further from the truth. Individualism is killing us.











  • I spent hours one afternoon as a kid trying to figure it out. After a few hours my right (dominant) hand was completely wrecked, but I was so frustrated I just switched to the left hand and kept trying. Eventually I got a passable snapping sound and ran to my mom sobbing with joy to demonstrate the saddest sounding snap. She noticed my hands were shaking and made me sit down and hold them on ice packs, lol.

    I’m 29 now and still can’t snap with my dominant hand for shit but my left hand snap sounds decent.