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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • I can’t relate as well, as I live in a city where things are really really aafe. But there are places where a women are afraid to walk alone in the dark, even for a few steps. (And even in safe places some people are quite afraid)

    I’d be very careful with remote diagnosis. You. might be right, she needs therapy. She might just be afraid, because something bad happened to her some time.

    The only way is for OP to have a good talk with her what’s bothering her - and then he may come to a conclusion. As of now, there’s just not enough information.




  • Speaking for a friend, they crashed the Mini Clubman S I love… sorry, THEY loved very much because of a WhatsApp that just arrived. Some one five cars ahead or so had to slam their brakes - eyes on the street would have made the reaction time “just enough” but even looking away for one second caused the crash.

    Learn from my err friend, don’t look at your phone while driving, even for a very short time.

    Damage on the Mini was more than its worth at the time. No one was injured, but even what looks like a small fender bender can quickly get very expensive nowadays.












  • Exactly this thought made made me understand “god is irrelevant” a long time ago and I became an agnosticist.

    I really can not understand people who are only “good” because they fear an ultimate judgment, and not be good just because they want to out of their own volition.

    In case there are gods, I’ll be judged for who I am, anyways. It doesn’t matter if I play “good child”. If there are no gods, I’m still happier if I’m not an asshole.



  • When I was a teenager my dad got a beautiful marble chess board. It was leaning on a wall, and when I picked it up it broke into two halves.

    My dad was really sad and angry at me, that board meant quite a deal to him. He always thought I mishandled it, regardless how I said I was careful.

    He died last November.

    I got sent a few boxes with his belongings, and when I opened one of them I found that chessboard. It is glued with epoxy.

    It sits in my apartment now, and I still don’t know if I want to keep it or get rid of it. One one hand it meant a lot to him, on the other hand it is one of the very rare things where I felt treated unfairly.


  • I live in Germany, was a teenager in the 80s. We would have been ground zero then, and would be ground zero now.

    I’ve already spent all the fear of nuclear war in the 80s. I am just not able to fear nuclear war now, anymore. The fear just dulls after nearly half a century.

    The choice is to let a madman bring war to one country after another or to stop it - with the cost that stopping has a miniscule chance of me getting vaporized.

    But doing nothing will keep the risk of nuclear war for another 50 years. It has to be stopped now, appeasement never did anything good.