As someone who is probably 3x your age and has been around the block a few times in some non-standard social circles, let me assure you there are plenty of women out there looking for exactly what you described yourself as. Are they the majority of <insert dating app>, probably not, but who cares? You aren’t looking to date 500 people, just 1.

Be yourself and go find her.

This guy doesn’t sound basic so why would he want those basic bitches? 😂

Do you wanna be mostly/sorta/un happy with someone that was easy to get because you were role playing someone else, or do you want to be truly happy with the person that accepted you as you are, but took a lot more effort to find?

Different people will make different choices in that situation. Everyone has to decide for themselves.

Think of how many hurt feelings we’d all have to live with if they hadn’t invented rubber and glue.

Great. Now I’m double old.

Imagine proudly advertising to the world that you’re that shit at picking a partner.

Why the hell do you have a Hot Topic gift card?

Holy balls they sound better live. This is awesome!

Violates rule 5.

That sounds like a problem that will sort itself out quickly.

Winner winner chicken dinner. It’s always, always, always about them getting out paying something. Always.

That is good to hear. Next time you are feeling really down, remember this moment. Remember how after a while you felt better. Not great, but better. Remember, and internalize that. And then when you feel really low again, you can at least remember back when felt like crap but you KNEW it would get better. Not great, but it always gets better eventually. And then after a while you start to believe it, even if you think you’re fooling yourself a little. And after more time you realize, it’s actually true.

That thought process got me through some very dark times. I hope it is somewhat helpful to you.

Having worked in a shelter where the dogs had plenty of room to shit wherever they pleased, I can assure you that many dogs are not all that concerned about shitting right where they eat.

A big part of it is their stress and fear levels, but yeah some of them just DNGAF.

🥲 Memmmmmmmmmories…

Correlation does not equal causation.

You have to be a little off to WANT to interact with ChatGPT that much in the first place.

I just smoked a j and I’m reading through this thread and all the regular advice comments, then I hit this and started laughing so hard I almost had an aneurysm.

Thank you.

I remember that movie!

Even though you feel like that, it hasn’t ended. I’m glad it hasn’t, so that we can have this conversation.

I’ve felt things like what you’ve described feeling. It’s suffocating when you not only aren’t happy, you can’t see any prospect of happiness in your future.

The thing is, the voice telling you there’s no hope is wrong. And eventually something will come along and shine a glaring light on that fiction, and you’ll realize that there was hope, you just couldn’t see it for a while.

But don’t worry about that. It will arrive. You just have to stay alive long enough for it to reach you. So stay alive today.

Tomorrow when you wake up, decide to stay alive just for the day. That’s all you need to focus on for now.

Please call someone, even a crisis hotline if needed, before taking any actions you can’t undo.

And please reply tomorrow and let me know how you’re doing.

“If you ever feel sad but want to add a side of slightly disturbed to that…”

You’re right, most of them don’t care to learn how everything works at a deep level. But if you are one of the few that do, you can make bank.

Source: Retired at 49.

Treat others as you’d like to be treated.