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Cake day: December 24th, 2023

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  • Just fill your time by being the guy who replies “unfortunately this niche group of people I don’t belong to can’t use your advice” on every ask post reply. Some people really get a thrill out of it.

    Like for instance if someone asks how they can stay hydrated and somebody replies water you could say “unfortunately some people don’t have access to clean water”, and then just let the upvotes roll in because it’s technically true. It’s going to make you feel worse in the short term because you’ll know what you’re doing, but you won’t recognize that right away or maybe ever so it’s probably a viable strategy for a month.







  • There always will be a divide between those who use technology as a means to an end and those whose end is technology.

    If you think I’m taking a “side” with that statement you’re the latter.

    If you think that’s a dig at anyone it’s probably because you think people care what phone you have, or that I’m trying to sneakily insinuate that you’re not doing anything by installing another flavor of Linux so you can get your dock to line up perfectly the way you want it to.

    If you think people care what phone you have it’s probably because you know people who do.

    If you think you have to be around those people I’m here to tell you I don’t know anyone who cares about what phone I have.



  • Connect with the natural world. Go find some woods where there aren’t a lot of people and just be alive in them.

    Sometimes I find myself on my phone too much. I’ve found it useful to try to remember something I saw online a week ago. Frequently I cannot. This makes me upset at the time I am wasting.

    I started disc golfing again last year and I play every weekend and it’s keeping me sane. It’s like walking in the woods with a purpose. I like to go before anyone else is playing in the morning. It must work because my wife encourages it and it means her watching our toddler alone for a couple hours.



  • See you took what I wrote really literally. Thanks this is helpful. What I meant was saying “how’s it going”, but you took it as I would literally ask “how’s your day going”. Like, I would always use quotes to indicate a specific word usage but you have no way of knowing that.

    Also I’d never use the same kind of language or approach to anyone I knew personally. Everyone needs something different. There isn’t a formula to get it right without listening and knowing. How are you doing is how are you feeling where I come from btw. How’s it going is hi. How’s your day is “how’s today no details”.



  • There’s a lot of spectrum concentrated here. I’m on the adhd end and my thinking tends towards connections, allegory, and metaphor and I have a real hard time filtering shit down to something people who think extremely literally will like to read.

    For me, everything is connected and anything could be a stand in for anything else. Not the case for a lot of people here.

    Someone told me not to ask strangers how their day was (like in the real world) if I didn’t really want to know (like that someone’s dad died) and I just had to put my phone down for the rest of the morning. It’s great experience for learning how to talk to others though overall.