Hugging yes, but with a very limited range of friends, and I don’t have much.
I’m okay with a guy initiating a hug, but sometimes it takes me by surprise. But it’s a good surprise.
I feel it’s acceptable, just doesn’t happen often.
Yeah, that’s become the norm I feel. Plenty of my guy friends are huggers, even when we see each other pretty regularly. But not all of them. Plenty of them are just handshakers, some are dappers (especially after lockdown/covid panic), and a few are just “don’t touch me.”…-ers.
I haven’t had anything beyond a hug from my mother in 10 years.
A boss of mine some time ago would sneak up and pat me on the back, scaring me most of the time. Back then I hated it.
These days something like that would make my whole week.
I (from the US) visited my cousins in Italy, and as we were driving around, my cousin and his best friend were joking back and forth in Italian, and it ended with him just kissing his friend on the cheek out of nowhere. It was very cute and entirely non sexual lol. Got a kick out of it since i don’t really see that at all in the US.
I kiss my sons and will continue to do so for as long as they let me. I can’t think of any other male friends/family that I kiss.
I don’t think I’d have a problem with being kissed, but it simply isn’t done. Hugs, yes. Kisses, no. I don’t feel a need to kiss any of them, which is pretty hypocritical since I readily kiss most of my female friends/family.
Interesting question. I can’t say I particularly wish that kissing my male friends/family was more socially normalised. But I’d probably embrace the societal change if it came along.
No, it’s not socially acceptable. Yes, I wish it were. I don’t know if I’d go for full on snuggling but I come from a physically affectionate family and in general wish people were more comfortable with that kind of thing
Interesting. I come from a family that wasn’t very physically affectionate, and I hug most of my friends every time I see them.
I go for the hug when I see friends I haven’t seen in a long time, or when I’m parting ways with someone I know I won’t see for a while. But it’s definitely not a regular occurrence
No, it’s not socially acceptable. Yes, I wish it were.
Like, does this mean you are afraid of other people you don’t know judging you, or that you or your friends find it socially unacceptable?
Either way that seems to be more of an individual problem rather than a social one. I am physically affectionate with my friends and have never been confronted about it by a member of the public , not that I would really care if I were. People be dumb, I’m not going to let someone else’s projected homophobia dictate my friendship.
That it would be viewed as awkward and unwelcome by the other participants. Consent is key, yo
Nope. Nope.
I don’t mind a hug, but I have zero desire to snuggle or wrestle with my friends, male or female.
But everyone wants to snuggle squirrels
We’re snuggly right up until we get bitey.
That’s when the fun starts
That’s what I have a cat for
I really like personal space. I hug my family because we’re close and we hug, and I’ll hug my closer dawgs if they need it, but most of the time I want people to respect my personal space.
I am bisexual and somewhat poly. With some of my friends I have a more publicly physical/intimate relationship. We may hold hands, hug, or kiss. In private, we cuddle and… do other things as well. I imagine the straights of Lemmy will largely tell you they don’t cuddle their male friends while the queer folk will give a different answer.
It’s been a much more diverse range of comments than I anticipated. It’s very heartening to see. :)
Wait, so you all are telling me that you don’t kiss the homies goodnight?
Hugging yes, “playful” wrestling no. When we wrestle we do it hard and I 8/10 times come home bruised
If I was hard when wrestling I’d start questioning my sexuality
Don’t have to question what you already know
Some people naturally get erect during physical exercise. Even things like running and swimming.
Shhhs as true as this is, the joke doesn’t work when people start throwing facts about!
Do you wrestle like the ancient Greeks?
I like hugs… I am ok and like a good hug from anyone. I am just scared to initiate. Hate snuggling or wrestling. Feels weird.
Is the implication here that adult women snuggle/wrestle with their friends? Outside of porn videos?
Not necessarily. I’ve noticed female friends tend to be much more adept at physical affection on the whole. Men tend to have a much wider range, with some hugging you (male) like a 2x4, whereas others shimmy over to you and rest their head or arm around you on a chairlift.
Mostly, I wanted to hear how male-male friends and family treated each other physically, without the complication of SOs or romantic partners fuzzing the responses (since people tend to already be physically affectionate with romantic partners).
It’s been really interesting to hear, the responses are much more diverse than I was expecting, and it’s really heartwarming to see.
My female friends do, so yes
Wrestling, I’m not sure about, but a lot of people platonically snuggle. A lot of it is cultural and also down to your upbringing, but not everyone sees physical affection as something you can only get out of romantic relationships.
We very much are, hugs and kisses and all. But waaay more important (not everybody is into physical affection on a platonic level) we share our feelings and give each other compliments.
It is very sad to see how many men outside our bubble try to uphold this stupid idea of what it needs to be a man, while struggling with their mental health and the ability to have meaningful relationships.
The guys I go to tantra classes with are very affectionate, and it’s so lovely.
buddy I’m a furry I’ll hug strangers
No, I’m not.
As for social acceptance I like my personal space. Don’t care what you do as long as I can opt out.
