An oldie, but a goodie

  • crackajack@reddthat.com
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    1 year ago

    You can be angry without being rude. I’d much prefer passive aggressiveness than egregious blame-shifting and accusations.

    • oce 🐆@jlai.lu
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      1 year ago

      You don’t need to be passive agressive either, you can just be polite and factual.

        • SchizoDenji@lemm.ee
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          1 year ago

          Exactly. I’ve worked under terrible managers and some great ones. Great ones get pissed off but they never, ever try and let emotions out. They were all to the point and knew what worked for every guy.

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            1 year ago

            No, not at all. I appreciate that of her. She doesn’t even look scary when I’m being told off. Which is why I put the word angry in quotation marks. She tries to sound angry and look scary but we kind of brush it off. Not that I didn’t respect her authority.

      • wildginger@lemmy.myserv.one
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        1 year ago

        Being directly a cunt actually causes sabotaging employees who work the minimum letter of the contract until they can quit via a text 5 minutes after start of day because they got another job lined up.

        Dumb managers poison the well by acting like this.

      • onlinepersona@programming.dev
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        1 year ago

        If you can’t express yourself without expletives, it just means you have a small vocabulary or lack the maturity to express yourself without getting emotional, or both. It is a major sign of incompetence, unprofessionalism, and ignorance.

        Direct != being an asshole. If you don’t understand that, you have a lot to learn.

    • laurelraven@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      1 year ago

      Yeah, that’s a hard pass on passive aggressiveness, constructive criticism isn’t either of those things nor rude and angry ranting. Love Linus, but he really did need to chill out a bit more with these things. He could have gotten the same point across without coming across as yelling at the guy, just firmly pointing out that it was caused by the patch, the patch did things it shouldn’t ever do, and don’t break userspace or blame userspace programs